Dear Hope: My Parents Blame Me For Everything

The Village Free Press Salutes Gwendolyn L. Young

By Gwendolyn Young

Dear Hope:

How do you deal with a parent or parents that blame everything on you even if it isn’t your fault?  — Anonymous

Dear Anonymous:

Wow. What a situation to be in. I would encourage you to take a few moments to think about the behavior, attitude and energy that you bring to this situation.  If, after honest and objective reflection, you believe that you are still being unfairly blamed, I encourage you to sit down and talk with your parents. They may be doing it unintentionally. Parents may also be going through personal situations and challenges that might have nothing to do with you. Those problems may be the source of their behavior.

If you don’t want to talk to your parents, seek out another relative, close family friend or mentor that you trust. They may be able to give you some advice or talk to your parents on your behalf. This is also definitely an issue I would encourage you to pray about. Something like this can take a toll on a person physically, mentally and emotionally. It can also negatively affect the relationship between you and your parents. I hope everything works out for you!

This column is not meant to be a substitute for professional medical, legal or financial advice. Questions may be submitted anonymously or via pseudonym to, or Gwendolyn Young, M.A., C.P.C., is the Executive Director of Seed of Hope Foundation, a nonprofit girls mentoring organization based in Westchester.


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