Dear Hope: I’m Losing My Best Friend

By Gwendolyn Young

Dear Hope:

Lately my best friend and I haven’t been seeing eye-to-eye. It seems like we’re drifting apart. She has been my best friend ever since we were little. What do I do? – Losing My Best friend

Dear losing My Best Friend:

Friendships are ever-changing.  Have you tried reaching out to your friend and sharing with her what you’re feeling? It might be helpful to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. She may be going through some things and may not be telling you. Or it may be time for you two to go your separate ways. I know that’s definitely not what you want to hear, but it may be true. You two are not the same people you were when you were little. You have different dreams and different things that you want to do.  Remember, it is not a bad thing to go separate ways. It does not mean that you two still won’t talk or maybe even hang out. It just means that you two have your own lives and your own things to do.

The funny thing about life is that those who start out with you won’t always be the same ones who travel the entire journey with you.  The part she was meant to play in your life could be coming to an end.  Rather than focus on what might be lost, focus on all the good things she brought to your life and take this opportunity to begin cultivating new friendships.   I hope everything works out for you! VFP

This column is not meant to be a substitute for professional medical, legal or financial advice. Questions may be submitted anonymously or via pseudonym to, or Gwendolyn Young, M.A., C.P.C., is the Executive Director of Seed of Hope Foundation, a nonprofit girls mentoring organization based in Westchester, IL.


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