Dear Hope: My Family Has An Issue With My Weight, But I Like Myself As I Am

By Gwendolyn Young

Dear Hope:

I’m overweight, but I like my body as it is. My family has been telling me that I need to lose weight for health reasons, but it’s not like I eat a lot or have a bad diet. I feel that my weight is out of my control even though everyone else is saying that basically it’s my fault. What do I do? – Weight Bearer

Dear Weight Bearer:

Thank you for sending your question. I know that it takes courage to talk about your weight in a public forum.  First, I would like to share that we, as individuals, are responsible for the health and maintenance of our physical bodies.  The only exception to this would be certain diseases that we can’t prevent by taking necessary precautions.  With that said, weight is a factor that can be controlled by an individual. I would also like to share that weight is about being healthy and so your family has valid concerns.  What I would like to encourage you to do is visit with your primary care physician and ask for a complete physical.  This will allow you to begin the conversation about your weight from an objective perspective. Your physician should have the best interest of your health in mind.  The physical can also reveal if you are carrying too much BMI (Body Mass Index), which is how doctors can tell if a person is obese.  So there will be no more back and forth about your weight sweetie! Once you have the results from your physical, then you can begin the process of taking action on what to do for your health.

I hope everything works out for you and remember we are seeding for the greatness in you! VFP

This column is not meant to be a substitute for professional medical, legal or financial advice. Questions may be submitted anonymously or via pseudonym to, or Gwendolyn Young, M.A., C.P.C., is the Executive Director of Seed of Hope Foundation, a nonprofit girls mentoring organization based in Westchester, IL.


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