Dear Hope: I’ve Been Raped

By Gwendolyn Young

Dear Hope:

What would you say to a girl who has been raped and doesn’t feel like she could ever be whole again? — Torn on the Inside

Dear Torn on the Inside:

Wow! I must admit this question startled me initially, because I wasn’t expecting something so sensitive.  First, let me thank you for being courageous enough to ask the question.  Your courage to begin speaking about it signifies the start of healing on your journey.

I personally believe that God is a healer and if you allow him to do so, he can take this crude act of violence that was committed against you and make you whole again. I would say, “YOU ARE NOT WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU!”

I would say, “IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.” There is something deeply wrong with the individual who committed this violent act against you.

I would say, “BE COURAGEOUS” and share your story to help other young women heal.

I would say, “Don’t be ashamed to get the professional counseling and treatment you need and deserve to move past this part of your journey in life.”

I would say, BEING WHOLE is a choice, so choose wholeness today; choose life; choose to take this experience and educate people on the topic of rape.

I would say, “YOU ROCK.”

Life is unfair, people have forgotten the value of a life and commit heinous acts against others on a daily basis and we all have a cross to bear, but at the end of the day we must choose LIFE, we must choose not to let our negative experiences dictate how our lives and our destiny will turn out.

I am seeding for the greatness in you and I know that you will feel whole again.

This column is not meant to be a substitute for professional medical, legal or financial advice.  The views and opinions expressed in this column are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the positions of The Village Free Press. Questions may be submitted anonymously or via pseudonym to, or Gwendolyn Young, M.A., C.P.C., is the Executive Director of Seed of Hope Foundation, a nonprofit girls mentoring organization based in Westchester, IL.


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